CO-HABITATION- IS IT RIGHT BEFORE GOD?

 

Are couples who live together MARRIED before God? http://monthlyyouth.com/?ref=481837 An article in Psychology Today warned against couples living together prior to taking their marriage vows.   The article pointed out that couples who live with each other prior to marriage have double  the risk of getting a divorce versus those who do not. According to their findings, couples who cohabited before marriage generally had lower quality relationships and were less satisfied in the marriage than those who first got married and then started to live together. In spite of these observations, the article stated that 30 or 40 or so years ago living together was rare and still frowned upon by society. Today, however, millions of couples live with   each other without being married. "Some evidence indicates that women have less control  over the progress of the cohabiting relationship . . . Cohabiting men may carry their uncertainty forward into marriage, with destructive consequences." The article also quoted a study that found that men who lived with their mate BEFORE they  got married were generally less commitment to the relationship versus couples who did live together pre-marriage. The concept that couples living together who have sex are married before God is widely  believed in some religious circles. It has merit in the sense that the married state is a relationship initiated by the Creator and is His choice for all of mankind. Most cultures, indeed, are  predominantly monogamous - one man married to one woman, and for life. In a discussion on divorce, Jesus agreed with this, going on to say "What God has joined man should not separate" (Matthew 19:6). Note - not whom but what God has joined. The state of  marriage is God's choice, He ordained the marriage relationship. He does not individually enter into every marriage! All marriages in the divine economy are to be monogamous and for life. Increasingly, however, human frailty fails to comply - thus forfeiting the full value of the marriage relationship. Marriage is a coming together of a man and a woman to complete one another, to become "one flesh" (Genesis 2:24) - emotionally, intellectually, spiritually as well as sexually. Clearly the latter is important, for among God's initial instructions to the first couple was to "be fruitful and multiply." It is through the enlargement of the human race that God's purpose for humanity  is fulfilled - for we all have the potential to become sons and daughters of the Almighty. Marriage, then, is not to be taken lightly. This has been recognized through the millennia,  and, to 'cement' the union, it is usually surrounded by elaborate, public ceremony with commitment to permanence and enforced by social norms. The breakdown of this pattern, especially in the Western world, has contributed to the decadence and decay of our civilization. It can be seen, then, that sexual union by itself is far removed from an authentic - and Godly - marriage. The evidence above suggests mere cohabitation falls short on all counts. But what of fornication? The Greek word porneia is in the New Testament translated so. In  essence it is all forms of illicit sexual activity - in or out of marriage. (Any behavior that falls short of divine standards is 'illicit'.) Anyone who promiscuously persists in habitually having  multiple sexual partners is a 'fornicator' (elsewhere translated 'whoremonger'), and is until repentance excluded from God's Kingdom. When such practices are permanently abandoned, they can, in Christ, be forgiven. It is doubtful that a heterosexual couple in a stable cohabitation situation is guilty of 'fornication' - though it falls short of the glory of God, and does not reflect the divine purpose of commitment  to a life-long marriage. http://monthlyyouth.com/?ref=481837